Why trusting your true self is the key to making decisions with more ease
When we think about making decisions in business, we tend to only really be aware of the big ones…
Who is my ideal client or customer?
Should I invest in this training or course or programme or membership?
Should I keep going?
Is it time to raise my prices?
Should I start a business at all?
All of these decisions can so easily put an entrepreneur into turmoil… with hours, days and even weeks being lost through moving between options trying to establish if it’s worth the risk (ah good old overthinking and it’s not so helpful cousin: procrastination).
But what about the little decisions we make all the time?
The decision to click and read this blog for example (a great decision btw!)
The decision to break for a cuppa.
Deciding which pen to pick up.
They might not seem important, but did you know that all decisions, big and small, happen in the same area of that spongy organ (not a muscle) you keep in your head, in the prefrontal cortex of your brain? That means you CAN make decisions; it’s just navigating the tricky ones!
Executive functions are your brain’s conductors that instruct other regions to do things…or not do things. As well as decision making, executive functions are also made up of memory, language, perception, judgements, and more.
As an entrepreneur, you’ll know that
some decisions are harder to make than others
with emotions playing a huge part in the process. Emotions which are influenced by self-talk, physiology, and beliefs – i.e. our internal communication system. When a decision is hard to make, it’s often because emotions such as fear or guilt are being triggered due to our deeply held beliefs.
And because we’re not capable of holding and processing a lot of information at a time, we’re hard wired to use short cuts instead (heuristics). This is basically where we choose a small number of options and ask ourselves, ‘is this option good enough?’ rather than weighing up every option and eventuality. This is just one of the reasons why coaching is so powerful as it encourages the coachee to explore options deeper than they would naturally be inclined to do. It’s also why good coaches have coaches…but I digress…
Back to making decisions and how you can make the process easier for yourself (yes please!)…
As well as working with a coach the key is to really get to know yourself, tap into your inner truth, challenge it where necessary and learn to trust it; trusting that answers and decisions will come to you when the time is right. Fretting over a decision is not helpful. In fact, it can lead to stress which you don’t need me to tell you is bad for your physical and mental wellbeing.
So how do you get to know yourself?
I identify this as connecting with your Unconscious Mind. Some refer to it as higher-self, inner-child, or something else. There are LOADS of mindset mastery tools
that you can use. I’m a big advocate of doing mindset mastery (and business!) your way, which means I’m not going to say which YOU should choose., but I will share some of my favourites and a bit more about how they work in relation to decision making:
- Meditation: When we meditate, we slow down the frequency of our brain waves to what is known as Alpha Frequency. It’s at this frequency that we’re at our most creative and so we may find ideas and options come to us regarding a decision that we hadn’t considered before. Meditation can be daunting if you’re new to it, I’ve lost count of the number of times people have told me they’re no good at it. With practice and guidance, we all have the power to be good at anything, and meditation is no different. In my membership, The Bubble, I have live, and recorded meditations suitable for all levels of experience. I also highly recommend, and use myself, the Calm app for short daily practices.
- TimeLine Therapy™: Through the release of negative emotions and limiting beliefs we gain a new sense of clarity over options and possibilities. Remember earlier I mentioned it’s sometimes important to also challenge the Unconscious Mind? TimeLine Therapy™ does just that as it breaks down long held beliefs that block decisions e.g. I can’t do that because I’m not good enough. You can read more about What Is TimeLine Therapy™? Here.
- Journaling: Beginning with a starting question, allow the pen to write down everything and anything that comes to you. Some of it might seem like nonsense, some of it might surprise you. You may find the answer or decision illuminates before you on the page. You can also use this tool to challenge your Unconscious Mind, for example starting with a question of ‘Why am I avoiding raising my prices?’. The answers will soon flow!
- The Pendulum: Often filed in the ‘woo’ folder, which- depending on your views on ‘woo’- may be a good or a bad thing. If you tend to avoid ‘woo’, bear with me. When we’re holding the pendulum and we ask our Unconscious Mind a question we produce a thought, even if we’re not consciously aware of it.
That thought sparks the release of neurotransmitters in the brain which then sends out messages which cause micromovements in your body, it is
these micromovements that cause the pendulum to move in a certain way - it could be your heart beating faster, a micromovement in your shoulder or arm…anything really! Behaviour impacts thought and thought impacts behaviour. There is a copy of my Introduction to The Pendulum workshop available to all The Bubble members along with loads more excellent workshops from me and other guest experts.
when it comes to decision making, only you can do it.
I’m not saying don’t chat about it and find out options, but way too often I see an entrepreneur asking for advice online from strangers and probably getting nowhere closer to a decision because, of course, different people would choose different paths. Knowing and trusting your true self- and your Unconscious Mind- will be the ticket that, when it comes to those big decisions, like ‘Should I join The Bubble membership?’ enables you to make them clearly and confidently with full commitment (which is after all where the magic happens).
I’d love to leave you with two final points:
1. A decision made is better than a decision not made.
2. If it’s causing you distress or discomfort try allowing yourself to decide not to make the decision today and to let it go until you are ready to process the information.
Need more support and guidance to help make decision making work for you? Then my Mindset Mastery and Business Growth Membership The Bubble could be just for you! You can check out more information here plus you can always book a free clarity call to talk through your options too.